Educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all.
Aristotle (384 BC-322 BC)
Teen: “They’re fake.”
Mom: “You really think they’re not believing? Then what about me? You think I’m fake, too?”
Mom: (disheartened) “I may not do Christianity well, but it is real to me. I’m not faking it.”The Questions
Two weeks later, this article surfaces. Are teens faking Christianity because their parents are?
The best way to grow a child’s faith is to have your own.
So now I’m looking twice in the mirror. Am I a fake? A poser?
I know I’m not faking strength.
Just ask me. I know I’m weak. If you listen, you’ll hear I’m crushed each time I visit my mom. Yes, I’m still able to go on (most of the time), but it’s not because I’m strong; it’s because God is.
I know I’m not faking happiness.
Ask Jeff. He’ll let you know the “depressed” word has passed my lips more than once. Yes, you’ll still see me smile some because I have deep-down joy, but it’s not because I’m happy with my present circumstances; it’s because God is bigger than my circumstances.
But what about my faith? Am I faking that?
I ask myself. Do I believe God promises a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11)? Do I trust His timing is just right for me and my family? Do I know I don’t understand His ways because they’re so much higher than mine (Isaiah 55:9)?
Yes, I believe. Yes, I trust. And yes, I know. I hear me preaching answers to me a lot these days. And I listen attentively to hear others remind me, too.
I know I’m not faking faith.
I don’t have as much as I want, but what I have is alive and breathing.
“Example isn’t another way to teach,
it is the only way to teach.”
– Albert Einstein
Fight against fake. Examine your authenticity more closely. Are you being fake in ways you don’t even realize?
Kids see through fake.
If you want your child to have your faith, studies say do good things together not just inside your church, but also outside your church. This strengthens your faith credibility.
And do it now: your window of opportunity to influence your child’s faith closes fast.
If your child’s faith turns out just like yours,
will you be satisfied?
- If I want my child to trust God will always take care of her, am I living like I believe God always takes care of ME?
- If I want my child to turn everything over to God, does she see me release worry and turn over all of MY concerns to God?
- If I want my child to know there is nothing God can’t handle, am I showing her by MY life and words that I believe that?
If your #1 parenting goal is to raise your child to believe in Jesus, then make sure you do. Build your own faith; stay in the Word; grow in the Lord.
Be real. Purposed. Definitely not fake.
Kids are more likely to grow in faith
if their parents talk about why they believe.
I’m reminded to put more God-talk behind my actions. I want to be intentionally and unmistakably transparent.
Mom: It was hard visiting Nana today. But you know why I go?
Mom: (preaching to both of us anyway) Because I love her. But also because I want to honor her. And I want to honor God. And I can honor God by taking care of her. Do you get that?
Teen: (no hesitation) Yes.
Mom: (whew—for today anyway)
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Will you be satisfied if your child ends up with a faith just like yours?