Who you are today matters forever


There are a good many things which would not be worth bothering about if I were going to live only 70 years, but which I had better bother about very seriously if I am going to live forever.
~ C. S. Lewis
MERE CHRISTIANITY
Book III, Chapter 1

And I am going to live forever; I’ve been promised. So it does matter who I am today. And I best be concerned about it.

I attended Lauren and Nate’s wedding last Saturday. The bride and groom were obviously giddy to be marrying, and rightly so. Nothing but smiles and laughs.

But we older adults intermingled our joy with a few tears, and not just happy ones. We could foresee a little further down the road—times the happy couple will get so angry at each other that they’ll say such rude things unimaginable on this wedding day; times when they’ll worry themselves crazy over a sick child in the middle of the night; times when they’ll be so torn about whether to spend Thanksgiving and Christmas at his family or hers. Little things and big things. We know. We’ve been there.

And we foresee times of immense joy, too, those special joys that only married partners can give to each other.

We take the long view. We’ve lived it and we know it’s ahead for them, too.

So the vows the loving couple made to each other on Saturday need to be undergirded with determination and commitment and selflessness because they have much to go through ahead. Those character traits are things worth bothering about not only to catch a spouse, but to keep one—through the first year of marriage, into the next 55, and those very qualities will shape who they are individually into eternity.

Patience, kindness, trust, perseverance, forgiveness. Young or old, don't we all need to continue nurturing these in ourselves? Not only for our spouses, but because we have a very, very long time ahead to live with us. Let's make it as pleasant an experience as possible.

4 comments:

Lisa writes... said...

Hi Lisa notes! I'm Lisa writes! I stumbled on your site from a comment you left somewhere else...and it looks like we have a lot in common! For instance, I'm married to an Auburn man who's raising four of the biggest Auburn fans you've ever seen! :-)

Lisa said...

How cool! Looking at your blog, I see another commonality--we probably could both have chosen the name "Lisa reads" as well. ;-) So many books, so little time...

War Eagle!

jeri said...

Hi Lisa,

I followed your link from Challies. Are you a fellow Alabamian? I live in Trussville, near Birmingham.

I enjoyed your comments and looking around your blog. Blessings to you!

Lisa said...

You detect southern accents well. What gave it away--too much Auburn gear?

I'm enjoying the comments on Challies, too--even though they usually are not quite what I expect. :-)

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