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When it could have been me

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I can't shake the scene. This one from Wednesday night.

How many times have I seen somebody jaywalk across the seven lanes on University Drive? Just a quick dash to the Chevron. Sometimes a kid on a bike. Sometimes a man on foot.

Maybe I even saw it on my drive into Huntsville Wednesday afternoon.

But not on my drive back. Because on the way back, a 63-year-old man never made it all the way across.

And while I didn’t see it happen, I could have.

It could have even been me in the car that hit him.

Just minutes earlier, my lady friends and I had ended our Bible study time at Joe Muggs in Books-a-Million. We made plans for a new meeting place, talked about what to study next, and were saying good-byes. I lingered an extra minute to talk to Kay, but it was cold, so not for long. 

I pulled out onto University. Something was wrong. Too many lights ahead—police, ambulance, fire trucks. The red light at Pulaski Pike stopped me. I pulled up Twitter in the pause: 

BREAKING: Huntsville Police are on the scene of a traffic fatality on University Drive near Pulaski. East bound lanes are being closed.

A fatality. A pedestrian, struck and killed.

So I turned right and avoided it.

Because I could.

Because if I had only left a short conversation earlier, the 63-year-old man—“Pops”—might have run out in front of me, and I might have been driving the car that hit him.

And my life then—like his now—would have been changed forever.

Sometimes I ask, “Why me?”
But sometimes I ask, “Why not me?”

This was the latter. Thank you, God, for sparing me direct involvement in this story. Be with the ones not spared, of the guilt or of a death in the family.

Because it could have been me.
But this time it wasn’t.

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How have you seen God’s grace in your own life lately?

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I'm sitting here with tears coming down my face, Lisa. That man was my age...he was more than likely someone's dad, someone's husband, someone's grandpa, someone's son. In spite of how organized I become, there have been times when I've been later getting out the door than I'd planned. Later I will hear of an accident that, had I been on time, would have involved me. Thank you for this reminder that He has a plan.
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Yeah, there's something about hearing an age or a name or something specific that can really drive it home. I saw an obituary the other day that was my baby sister's exact name. Not her, obviously, but gave me shivers just the same. Perhaps God wants us to have these little reminders to not take people and time for granted, but to use them wisely. Thanks for your comment, Dianna.
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Great story of grace. Oh the things we do not know that God spares us from......
Thanks for sharing,
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Where we used to live, very often I would go one way to drop kids off or pick them up from school, and on the way back, at a busy intersection, I would see a wreck right where I had been moments earlier. It's always so sobering to realize "That could have been me." I agree it would be as traumatic to have hit someone as it would be to have been hit. It's also a reminder to pray for those involved as we drive by.
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Why me? and Why not me? It can be gut-wrenching either way. Trusting God and his grace is the only way through either. A powerful reminder here, Lisa.
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You know, I saw a pedestrian crossing traffic the other night and their dark clothes made them almost impossible to see until we were almost on top of them! It was really scary--not a close call, but one that reminded me of how easy it is to hit someone at night. So I can completely relate to your words here, Lisa and am thankful God delayed you AND gave you that ah-ha moment. Every moment is precious! Thanks for reminding us of it too!
Yeah, I hear you, Lisa. We are so blessed and we don't even notice it. May God enable us to see all kinds of blessings in our lives. God bless you, sis! Thank you for this post.
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I've shared in a few posts about the kid I went to school with named Joe. We were both on the football team and lived in the same neighborhood and crossed the main street to school steps apart everyday. The one day I happened to be behind him he was hit and killed by a car... I remember the scene like it was yesterday... But by the grace of God.... there go i...
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I remember you sharing that story about Joe. Very sobering situation for a young man (or woman) to be in. One that sticks with you a lifetime, regardless of how many years go by. And that's just ones we do see; I wonder how many close calls we DON'T see. Leaning into grace on all sides...
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I think this happens even more than we realize - the delay of a few minutes sparing us from being involved in an accident. It makes me thing of the scripture, "The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord," Psalm 37:23
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Thankful God spared you involvement in this. Amen to your prayers for those who were. Every time we get behind the wheel it's an act of faith, isn't it? May the Lord protect you from doing or receiving harm in your journeys this week.
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Makes me wonder how many things we miss, how many things He protects us from that we don't realize. Life is short, isn't it. Blessings to you!
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"Why not me? Yes, I need to ask that more often. I have been involved in so many near misses. I rolled my car over and walked away without a scratch. Just heard on the news tonight of a young man who rolled his over and was killed. I am no more deserving. "tis mercy all.
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Wow- yes, this story makes me stop and feel thankful for this moment, this day. Life is a gift. Thanks for the reminder.
TEARS! so traumatic a death...what a horrible way to pass from here. And what of the one who hit him? Bless their heart...Yes. it hits home. MY KAM fell asleep at the wheel on a Mon. evening after his first National Guard weekend...where he got next to nothing sleep, and then came home, stayed up all night studying and then went to school, stayed for dress rehearsal for the Play that week, took a friend home after a meal with the actors, and nodded...crossed the line, hit another lady. His car spun across the lanes and ended up pointed toward the dark woods and fencing. I am convinced an angel kept it from being head on. The airbag hitting him woke him as he was spinning. Scared 10 pounds and 5 years off of his life. And his dad and I are just so so so grateful to the Lord - so grateful. The lady had only a minor soreness in her hand,..and a dented front van. Kam's little Celica was totaled. God's GRACE. ((hugs))
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Such a scary story about your Kam. :-( Thanking God that he spared him and the lady with only temporary problems. We never know from one day to the next what will come. Just have to praise God in the moments we are here, and look forward to the moments that we'll be with Jesus face to face, whatever situation comes to take us there.
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These are such sobering moments. I'm so sorry for this tragedy, Lisa. I really appreciate the way you take it to heart. So many times it could have been me. Such a transforming thought.
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