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If I do it for you...

do-for-one    If I do it for you, I’ll have to do it for everybody.
     I can’t do it for everybody.
     So the answer is, “No” to you.

I’ve heard that argument all my life. It’s logical, right? I’ve given that argument, too. Even today.
     Daughter: Take lasagna tonight to the potluck. 
     Me: I can’t. I don’t have enough for everybody.

So instead, nobody will get any.

I’m beginning to question my logic.

I’m blaming Andy Stanley. Yesterday I listened to his podcast. He told me,

  • Let go of the fallacy of “If you can’t do for everybody, do for no one.”
  • Instead, “Do for one what you wish you could do for everyone.”

He said quit trying to be fair. Life isn’t fair.

I’ll add, grace isn’t fair either.
Aren’t we glad?

Even though Jesus died for everyone, he knew not all would believe in him. What if he had reasoned, “But if everybody won’t believe, I shouldn’t die for anybody.” There would go our salvation.

Or “If I change the laws of nature this time, she’ll expect it every time.” We’d have had no miracles.

If grace were fair, there’d be no grace. 

Instead of being fair, can we just be loving?
Just because we can’t do it every time, can’t we at least do it this time?
Can we do what we can for whom we can, even when we can’t do it for everyone?

  • Water the next-door-neighbor’s flowers, even though we can’t water the whole neighborhood.
  • Send the sympathy card to the widow we know, even though the obituary page is overflowing.
  • Buy the thin mint cookies from the Girl Scout who asks, even though we can’t buy them from the whole troop.

You don’t have to do it all to still do something.
Do what you can.
Your one act of grace won’t be fair.

But somebody will be happy to receive it.

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Have you been the recipient of an “unfair” gift? Were you glad?

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What a wonderful, fresh point of view! If I can't help everybody, I can at least help somebody, and if everybody helped somebody, what a difference it would make!

Of course I've been the recipient of many unfair gifts: salvation, being adopted by the parents I had, many, many more!
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Very interesting, Lisa! I've never thought of it this way and I like the idea behind it! I can handle responding to the "one" who God brings across my path! :)
I love your post because its true. ...
Wish everyday of yours are blessed!

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Oh amen...I have had to have this undone in me...fair...just...right...even...I had to free God from this narrow vision...then I could free myself and those around me...Love this...blessings to you~
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The idea of fairness begins in childhood and only grows. This is so true. I love this, thanks for the encouragement!
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I love this, Lisa! So obvious, yet so easily overlooked or misconstrued.

How often do we despair of relieving poverty, because their are too many people living in poverty throught the world? Yet, we can help one person, or one family.

How many sick people in Israel were not healed by Christ? Yet that didn't stop Jesus from healing the one's He did heal.

Thanks for sharing!
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What a great point. It is a subtle tool of the enemy and I've fallen into that trap more than once. Great advice, thanks.
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What a great post... oh, how thankful I am that God is totally unfair, because all I deserve went to Jesus and not me, and I get to enjoy Him and let my life display His awesomeness. I will take what is in my hand and do it for one. Just one if that is all I can do. And it might just change the world.
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My kids and I have this "fairness" discussion fairly often. And I'll bet they could quote my usual response. "Yup, life's not fair. God never said it would be. It's not fair that Chinnu (one of our Compassion children) was born in extreme poverty while you were born here with plenty to eat, clean water to drink, access to good doctors and medicine when you need it. It isn't fair that Sam (my son) is sick or that I was permanently injured in our accident. It isn't fair that Uncle Timm died at 32 years old and never met his second son. It isn't fair that so many we know don't have jobs or live in broken homes or were just diagnosed with cancer. You're right! Life isn't fair...and God never said it would be. But that's the amazing thing about grace. It isn't fair either. None of us deserve God's grace or mercy, but He gave it anyway...just because He loves us."

Loved this post, Lisa! Words we need to hear and absorb, and learn to live from a heart of compassion and love.
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Excellent examples, Cindee. "Life's not fair" has been one of my mantras for awhile too. And that unfairness usually works out WAY in my favor instead of my detriment.
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I am your one and you feed me grace every morning, so who is my one today so i can pass it on?
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I've thought about your comment all day today, Beverley... When I wrote the post, I wasn't even thinking about our blogs, but when something we write touches one person--even if that one person is ourselves!--it's enough for God to use. Thanks for blessing me, friend. Truly. Hope you found your one today to pass along grace to.
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oh I love this- I always tell my children "I have to do what's right for each of you - separately!
Well this is though provoking! You make excellent points here, ones I need to reminded of daily. I think I am the recipient of an "unfair" gift daily - a smile from a stranger, thanks from a friend, comfort from Jesus - and yes, I am always glad. Thank YOU for these wise words today.
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I love it, Lisa! "You don’t have to do it all to still do something. "

I always find something new to think about when I come here. Keep up the good work!
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Your words pour grace over me, Jerri. Thank you...
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Now this..I like. This is something I can run with! Do for one what you would like to do for all....yes, I think this definitely has possibilities. thank you, Lisa.
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